Most Effective Sobriety Book - This Naked Mind & How It Changed My Life
Updated: Nov 30, 2019
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Getting sober wasn't easy. I tried for many years to quit drinking and failed miserably time and time again. I started drinking when I was around age 11 and abused alcohol up until I finally got sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. My cycle looked a little something like this:
Blackout. Get violent. Hurt myself or someone else.
Forced to get sober.
Start drinking again.
Blackout. Get violent. Hurt myself or someone else.
Forced to get sober.
Start drinking again.
Repeat, repeat, repeat.
For so long I didn't actually WANT to get sober, but instead, felt that I had to in order to keep the people I loved and cared about in my life. I thought that I loved alcohol. I called it a "love-hate relationship". It was a huge part of my life and I couldn't even fathom the idea of being without it forever. I felt like my heart would break if I had to. I also knew that if I didn't get sober I risked losing the people who had been there with me through my violent and dramatic blackouts and this would also break my heart. I knew that if I lost those people then I would likely end up alone. So I at least had to go through the motions of appearing like I was taking the steps to better myself even if, in the back of my mind, it wasn't my intention to fully quit drinking forever. I went to therapy, tried different types of detox, attended a few AA meetings. I also became quite manipulative. I would go a couple weeks or months sober and then convinced those around me that I could now drink in moderation. I knew those people were also heavy drinkers and didn't exactly enjoy drinking alone, so I knew that with enough convincing that they would cave and give me the "okay" to join them again. I knew what I was doing and I knew that I didn't ever want to completely remove alcohol from my life and that is the reason that I stayed trapped in this cycle for so long.
When people ask me for advice on how to get sober, I will share with them some of the tools that I've used but ultimately, deep down, I know that the answer to true and lasting sobriety has to come from within. I can tell you over and over how alcohol destroyed my life and made me not want to live anymore. I can show you how much better my life has been since becoming sober. I can help you identify the reasons that you feel you need to drink. I can show you that the beliefs you've created around alcohol that make you feel like you need to drink are all a lie. I can help you see the pain you are causing yourself and those you love. But the one thing that is going to make a true impact, is for you to decide for yourself that alcohol no longer serves you. You have to decide for yourself that you deserve a better life. You have to decide for yourself that you no longer want or need alcohol. It has to be in your own time, on your own terms. I don't believe that everybody has to hit "rock bottom" to get to this point, but for a lot of people, that is the case.
So, how did I come to the realization that I was done with alcohol for good?
Through this journey, I had also seen my Mom struggle with alcohol. Through my attempting and failing cycle of sobriety my Mom was also going through a similar pattern. My Mom was actually the one that introduced me to Annie Grace and her book This Naked Mind as well as her "30 Day Alcohol Experiment". Part of the reason I am writing this blog is because I have SO MANY people ask me for advice on how to get through the beginning stages of sobriety and my #1 answer each and every time is to:
1. Download This Naked Mind on Audible or buy the physical book.
2. Check out Annie Grace's "30 Day Alcohol Experiment" and sign up. It's FREE.
3. Listen to This Naked Mind podcast.
I am also a part of many Facebook sobriety groups and I feel like a broken record recommending this over and over again. I also wanted to make it easier for those who find it helpful to quickly share with those who are struggling. I really believe that the information in this book is a game changer.
My mom who had been struggling with alcohol for the larger part of her life had been reading this book and doing the experiment and to my surprise, it STUCK. She had gotten and stayed sober. So I followed suit. I remember being out on a bike ride with my Dad and listening to This Naked Mind on my headphone and just zoning out to Annie's voice and being in nature. Her voice to me is therapeutic. She has a nurturing voice and offers her insight in a non-agressive, non-judgemental tone. She's been there. She's done it. She has struggled, she has overcome her addiction and she shares with you exactly how she did it.
"Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life"is what you can expect to get out of this book. Sound promising right?
The best part is... It actually works!
Annie Grace not only give us an extraordinarily candid insight into her own journey, but she hits us with psychological, neurological, cultural, social and industry factors that play a role in alcohol addiction.
"This book, without scare tactics, pain or rules, gives you freedom from alcohol. By addressing causes rather than symptoms it is a permanent solution rather than lifetime struggle. It removes the psychological dependence allowing you to easily drink less (or stop drinking)."
Here are some real life testimonials on the power of this book:
"This is probably the most important book I've ever read. I was highly skeptical of the book's claims, as it flew in the face of everything I thought I knew about addiction. The simple act of reading the book and thinking critically transforms you and the problem with alcohol you have had. I went out the night I finished the book, to bars and stared at walls full of booze, shot girls going around passing out free liquor, and for the first time in my life, I felt absolutely nothing. No desire at all to drink. It was closer to smugly turning it down and celebrating that I didn't have to drink. And I had a tremendous amount of fun. This book is a miracle."
"Annie Grace is a badass in the way she writes, making the complexities of alcohol's effects on the brain fascinating reading and easy for anyone to understand. I listened to the audio a few times and she's a great reader too. Having a deeper understanding of cognitive dissonance, helped me cultivate more empathy and understanding for my spouse who's deeply entrenched in the denial of his drinking problem. I really appreciated the scientific approach to understanding, it strips away the shame and guilt so many drinkers shackle themselves with. It really is a mindset, understanding the science and dropping the shame game, this book is a game changer!"
"I liked how the author dispelled common thinking and misconceptions about alcohol. She reveals fascinating facts and research no one really knows about or listens to. Plus she exposes the powerful marketing and cultural conditioning we buy into when it comes to alcohol. This is an interesting, worthwhile read regardless of where you are on the drinking spectrum, i.e you don't drink, you drink but silently worry about your drinking or you've tried to stop and start again."
I truly believe that the information provided in this book is powerful enough to help people shift their perception around alcohol and quit drinking all together. Once you start seeing alcohol for what is really is, which is poison, it makes it hard to go back to ignoring what you now know. Alcohol abuse is a slow suicide.
Now, I do want to make something very clear here. You can equip yourself with all of the tools and all of the knowledge you need for sobriety, but if you don't actually WANT it or aren't fully ready to commit, none of it will do you any good. You will find reasons to continue drinking and destroying your life. You have to first make the conscious decision to WANT to get sober and WANT to better your life. You can't get sober because someone tells you you need to or because you feel forced to. If that is the case you will likely always feel deprived of alcohol and end up constantly wanting, craving and missing it. You will also become resentful of those who drink.
So if you are serious about sobriety, get this book and read it. Read it over and over again until it sticks.
**DISCLAIMER** I am NOT endorsed by Annie Grace or This Naked Mind. I have recommended this book to hundreds of people, however, I in no way benefit by sharing this information EXCEPT for by helping people get sober.
Okay, so on top of reading the book, I recommend joining Annie Grace's "30 Day Alcohol Experiment".
This is a FREE 30 day alcohol EXPERIMENT. It's free and there are no commitments. The purpose of this experiment is to evaluate your relationship with alcohol. You will be invited to the "Alcohol Experiment" private Facebook Group where there are THOUSANDS of other people taking part in this experiment as well. You will also receive a daily e-mail from Annie that will provide you with the tools and resources to help guide you through this process. I've attached a screen shot below:
From here you will be able to log in to your online portal and read the full daily lesson plus watch relevant videos related to the daily lesson.
At the end of your daily lesson you will be able to fill out writing prompts in Your Daily Journal and add a selfie to track your progress throughout the 30 days.
Getting sober is not always easy. It can take a lot of work but the good thing is that you don't have to do it alone. There are so many tools out there and so many people who are ready to connect with other people who are also trying to get and stay sober. We can't get lazy in our sobriety. We have to constantly be reading, learning and connecting with others. There are so many books, blogs, podcast and meetings out there. We have to constantly be evaluating our "why" and our purpose for getting sober in the first place.
If you are considering sobriety, please seriously consider the information in post. If you know somebody who is struggling with alcohol please share this article with them. The more information we can get out there about the dangers of alcohol and the more tools we can offer to those in need, the more we can begin to heal and to grow as a collective community.
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