Tools & Tips for Getting (and staying) Sober
Updated: Nov 21, 2019
My personal journey to sobriety began over 4 years ago when I realized I had a really unhealthy relationship with alcohol. I started reaching out to people I knew had experience with sobriety and started exploring options like AA. In my early twenties I was working at one of Atlanta biggest nightclubs, drinking AT LEAST 10 shots of some type of liquor a night, doing drugs, going to after parties during the middle of the week when I got off work at 4 AM, sleeping all day, going through the 24 hour Taco Bell drive-thru about 4 times a week, and being violent/angry towards people I cared about. I moved from Atlanta to Utah where my Dad and sister were living to get away from it all, but ended up picking up right where I left off with the unhealthy habits. Changing your location doesn't always change the bad habits if you aren't recognizing why you are making those decisions in the first place. Anyways, I started exploring with AA when I moved to Utah but never actually went to any meetings at that time. I spent a few more years going down that dark path before I really started having some wake up calls.
There were multiple times my Dad had to come up from Salt Lake City to Park City, where I was living, to help talk me through the damage I had caused the night before. Every time it happened, I would promise to do whatever it took to figure it out, but then I wouldn't have the tools and resources I needed to get started. I had no idea where to start, all I knew was that I needed help and didn't want to live that way any more. I spent years fumbling around, making bad decisions, knowing I needed to quit, trying to quit, failing, and continuing to drink and destroy my life.
I wanted to write this blog post to share with you some of the biggest resources I wish I would have had sooner.
This book changed my entire perspective and helped me understand my limiting beliefs towards alcohol and why we drink as humans. Annie comes at you with the scientific FACTS and gives you examples that really allow the information to make sense and sink in.
"Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life ‘Brilliant’ – Stella DuffyMillions of people worry that drinking is affecting their health, yet are unwilling to seek change because of the misery and stigma associated with alcoholism and recovery. They fear drinking less will be boring, difficult and involve deprivation, and significant lifestyle changes.
This Naked Mind offers a new solution. Packed with surprising insight into the reasons we drink, it will open your eyes to the startling role of alcohol in our culture. Annie Grace brilliantly weaves psychological, neurological, cultural, social and industry factors with her extraordinarily candid journey resulting in a must read for anyone who drinks.
This book, without scare tactics, pain or rules, gives you freedom from alcohol. By addressing causes rather than symptoms it is a permanent solution rather than lifetime struggle. It removes the psychological dependence allowing you to easily drink less (or stop drinking). Annie’s clarity, humor and unique ability to blend original research with riveting storytelling ensures you will thoroughly enjoy the process.
In a world defined by ‘never enough’ Annie takes us on an intellectual journey through the world of alcohol and specifically the connection between alcohol and pleasure. She dispels the cultural myth that alcohol is a vital part of life and demonstrates how regaining control over alcohol is not only essential to personal happiness and fulfillment but also to ending the heartache experienced by millions as a result of second-hand drinking.
Finally, with perfect clarity, this book opens the door to the life you have been waiting for."
#2. Annie Grace's 30 Day Alcohol Experiment
To everyone I recommend this book to, I also recommend joining Annie's "30 Day Alcohol Experiment". This helped me TREMENDOUSLY in the beginning of my sobriety. It's a free 30 day alcohol "experiment" or challenge. You are given access to Annie's online FB community of over 35,000 people, and she also e-mails you daily videos and walks you through the stages of detox and offers advice on how to handle things such as triggers, cravings etc.
Reading "This Naked Mind" and joining the 30 day Alcohol Experiment is the most powerful and effective steps I recommend if you are considering sobriety or trying to make sense of your unhealthy relationship with alcohol.
#3: "Alcohol Lied to Me" by Craig Beck
The Craig Beck quit drinking method is unique: No need to declare yourself an alcoholic. A permanent cure, not a lifetime struggle. No group meetings or expensive rehab. No humiliation, no pain and 100% no ‘willpower’ required. Treats the source of the problem, not just the symptoms.
There are a ton of sober groups on FB to be a part of. Most of them are pretty great but can have a tendency to become negative at times. In the beginning of my sobriety I needed positivity, encouragement and stories of SUCCESS. So what I did was I created my own Mindful Times FB Group where we can share our struggles, our advice, encourage one another and find accountability. This is a private group that requires a series of questions regarding sobriety to be asked before accepting somebody into the group. This means that you can speak openly and without judgement, knowing that everyone in the group is on this journey with you!
#5. Jay Shetty "On Purpose" Podcast
Although this podcast is not centered around sobriety, it has helped me a ton in my journey to sobriety. Jay has some of the most fascinating conversations with some of the most insightful people in the world. This podcast is extremely vulnerable, inspirational and motivating! I have made it a part of my weekly routine to listen to the new episodes every Monday and Friday as I get ready for my day! This is also a good video-
When I first quit drinking, between my body detoxing and realizing how much my life was going to change without alcohol, I found myself with a little more anxiety that normal. Something that I find helps SO much with anxiety is this Calm Magnesium Supplement. It also helps with sleep in the beginning stages when your sleep pattern can be thrown off.
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These are just a few things that have been the most helpful for me and I hope you will find some value in them as well!
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