Relationships & Environment: How They Play a Crucial Role In Your Sobriety
Updated: Nov 20, 2019
When quitting alcohol, it's important to make your decision clear to others. What I've learned over the years of trying to quit and failing is that the people who truly care about you and your well being will not only respect and support your decision, but they will CELEBRATE it. They won't just acknowledge your choice, but they will be your biggest cheerleader!
I am grateful to be to the point where I don't crave alcohol anymore and am rarely tempted by it, but that wasn't always the case. It's taken me many tries, many failures and completely shifting my environment to get here. You have to ask yourself, what are you willing to change, give up or completely remove from your life for your sobriety? How important is it to you? How sick are you of constantly being at war with yourself?
I had lived a life surrounded by alcohol for such a long time, that it was so hard getting away from it. It felt impossible. I would assume there are some people out there who can quit alcohol while still being around it, but I was not one of them. I had to make some MAJOR changes including: ending a long-term relationship, cutting friendship ties that were no longer serving me, or hindering my growth & sobriety, and choosing not to spend time in environments that promote drinking (bars etc.).
You know which relationships are making it harder to reach your goals with your sobriety. You know which friends you feel like you need to drink around to "have fun". You know which people will pressure you to drink when you've expressed you no longer want to (let me remind you - these are NOT your friends). You know which friends will verbally support your sobriety yet make no effort to make you feel comfortable in an alcohol free environment (especially in the beginning stages when you are still fighting cravings and being triggered by being around alcohol). You need to pay attention to these actions because they say a lot about peoples character. Be CLEAR and VOCAL about your intentions to longer drink alcohol. Set BOUNDARIES for yourself depending on your personal needs during this time. CUT TIES to people, environments, relationships that don't support your growth & sobriety.
I promise you that once you find clarity on what you want, people who don't truly support you will fall away and people with similar goals, visions, and mindsets will enter your life. You might go through a stage of purging these toxic relationships and let me tell you that it will be uncomfortable, and it will hurt, but just keep asking yourself - how important is your sobriety? How bad do you want it? How much do you love yourself and want more out of your life?
You can do it.
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